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Making Marriage and Family's Supernatural

In my blog today, I would like to discuss a concept that has been growing in prevalence, that, I feel, could be prevented in most cases. Disclaimer: there are understandable circumstances that should be addressed to protect the health and safety of individuals. However, I feel that in most cases, divorce can and should be prevented. Some causes of this could be: “sliding” into marriage, a lack of communication, not marrying for the right intentions, finances, and many other things. Marriage can be stressful, and it’s difficult adjusting to living a newly married life. However, when a couple learns to work things out and commit to staying together, generally things work out well. 70 percent of people who were very dissatisfied as newlyweds were, 5 years later, very satisfied with their marriage. Many people who ended up getting divorced said, 2 years later, that they should have saved the marriage. As difficult as divorce is on the couple, it is also difficult for the children affect...
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Parenting and Meeting Children's Needs

The topic I would like to discuss in my blog this week is a topic that has resonated in my mind for quite some time. Ever since I was a little girl, I dreamed of being a mom. I always knew that education was important, and I knew that I would work to obtain a degree in some field that was fascinating to me, but I also have always hoped and dreamed of becoming a mother. That led me to do a lot of pondering on the question, well, what is the purpose of parenting ? If becoming a parent is something I would like to do so badly, then what is it about parenting that is so important? I believe that there is more than one purpose to parenting. I think that parenting helps us to become better people and make better decisions, and I also think that it protects and prepares a child to survive and thrive in the world they will live in. Raising children is no easy task, and it requires a lot of time and effort. All children have needs, and it’s the parents’ responsibility to help to meet those need...
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Fatherhood

 This week, I was reading an article from the National Council on Family Relations, titled: Fatherhood and Social Change, and I would like to highlight 5 key points that I found the most important. First, the article highlighted the difference between the culture of fatherhood, and the conduct of fatherhood. The author mentioned that the culture of fatherhood is the “shared norms, values, and belief’s surrounding men’s parenting”, and the conduct of fatherhood is “what father’s do; their parental behaviors”. Rotundo said that “A good father is an active participant in the details of day-to-day child care. He involves himself in a more expressive and intimate way with his children, and he plays a larger part in the socialization process that his male forebears had long since abandoned to their wives.” The author goes on to say that Rotundo is describing what people would like fathers to begin doing, not necessarily what they are currently doing. The second highlight I found in...
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The Five Secrets to Effective Communication

Having strong communication is not natural in any given relationship. It is getting harder and harder to communicate and understand communication. Only 14% of communication comes from words, 35% of communication comes from tone, and 51% of communication comes from body language. Now that technology, texting, and social media has become a normal part of society, the communication has decreased a lot from back before these things were available. Healthy communication takes a lot of effort, and even puts people out of their comfort zone at times. In my blog today, I would like to list what I have found to be the most effective ways of communication. Everything I am basing my blog from today comes from Dr. Burn’s “Feeling Good Podcasts”, specifically his “The Five Secrets” podcasts. In Dr. Burn’s podcasts, he lists five secrets to effective communication. When these techniques are applied in our marriage, courtship, or other people we associate with, those relationships will greatly be s...
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Perception, Joy, & Positive Truths

This week, something was brought up that really grabbed my attention. I wanted to focus on it in my blog today, because it meant a lot to me, and I believe it will make a difference for you too. Every one of us experiences stress or adversity in our lives. We can expect that at some point in our lives, if something super stressful hasn’t already occurred, it most definitely will. Growing up, one of the things I often struggled with was having low self-esteem. I was consistently worried about what other people thought about me. As a result, I would have self-accusing thoughts such as, “I’m not beautiful enough”, or “nobody wants to hang around me”, or even “everybody is judging me”. Though I have increased in confidence over the years, I am still not perfect at it. I think everybody, at one point or another, struggles with confidence or worrying about what others think about them. What I have learned from this week that I would like to focus on in my blog today is that “we’re not just t...
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Emotional & Physical Intimacy

I had read and learned about a lot of interesting and fascinating research about emotional and physical intimacy this week. Today, I would like to pull information from a scholarly journal, “Sexuality”, from Lauer, Chapter 4. One of the most important ways to connect with our spouse through marriage is by emotional and physical intimacy. This can be a very challenging concept and topic for newly married couples to get used to, because it is a whole new environment and new way of living that they’ve never experienced together before. There are many challenges that the couple may face when they are newly married that they must now work out together. It can be awkward for both the spouses to be openly intimate with each other. Physically, it may be uncomfortable for either spouse and it may take some time to adjust to being vulnerable with showing off their body to their spouse. Unseen challenges may arise in their physical intimacy, including health problems, physical discomfort or pai...
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Committing to Being Married

If adjusting to first being married is so difficult, why would people decide to get married in the first place? Finances, making decisions, setting boundaries, finding routines, and the newness of being married are all big adjustments that are very difficult for newlywed couples. Cohabitating before getting married is becoming much more common than it ever has before. People are able to experience the same pleasures of being married without the expenses, the same level of commitment, the risk of divorce, and many other factors that would come with marriage commitments. What research has shown, however, is that there are many positive benefits that come from being married that one could not experience from cohabitating before being married. For example, couples that get married before cohabitating are more likely to make healthier decisions, compromise, set boundaries that strengthens the couple’s relationship, and have a better and more fulfilled sex life. Setting a marital commitment ...
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